Boyfriend Pressures Girlfriend To Get a Job, Or Else He’ll Take Away Her Car

A Reddit user shares that his girlfriend has been jumping between different jobs. But, according to the user, the girlfriend feels the jobs aren’t “good enough.” So, she keeps quitting after a few months on a job. And, for the last eight months, she hasn’t worked at all and has even stopped applying.

Who’s Paying For This Car?

About one year into their relationship, the original poster (OP) bought a car for his girlfriend to commute to work. At that time, she worked and had at least an hour’s commute. And the OP didn’t feel her car was safe enough. So, he bought a car and financed it under his name.

When she had a job, she would be the one to make the monthly payment. But, since she stopped working, the OP had to start making payments from his pocket. Add paying for rent, and now the OP is struggling to make ends meet.

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According to the OP, the girlfriend continues to use the car. But she doesn’t use it for interviewing for jobs. Instead, she uses the car to go shopping or meet with friends.

She Stopped Talking To Him

The OP says he offered to find her a job and knows someone willing to hire her. Yet, according to the OP, she refuses to work at all.

The OP told his girlfriend that if she doesn’t get a job, he’ll take the car away and give it to his mom. She wasn’t happy. Since then, his girlfriend has stopped talking to him, and when they do talk, the OP says she is “extremely rude and aggressive.”

Whose’s In The Driver’s Seat?

Many Reddit users are warning the OP that his girlfriend’s actions foreshadow the future and want him to question where this relationship is going. 

One user empathizes with the OP, sharing they’ve chased a similar relationship. They believe the OP probably sees what his girlfriend could be and wants to help her get there. 

However, the same user believes the OP is enabling his girlfriend to be the”absolute least-potential self” and “shielding her from normal-people struggles.” 

Should the OP take away his girlfriend’s car? Is the OP enabling his girlfriend’s behavior? What will become of their relationship? Are these red flags?

This article was produced and syndicated by Parent Portfolio.