Do Guys Go To Baby Showers? 7 Activities To Include Guys
As a dad who’s been through the parenting journey twice, my perspective on baby showers has evolved remarkably. Like many men, when my first child was on the way, I stood on the traditional sidelines, missing the baby shower. It was a realm I thought wasn’t meant for me.
Fast forward to the anticipation of my second child, and there I was, hesitant but curious, stepping into what I once viewed as an exclusively female domain.
Yes, males can indeed and do attend baby showers, and as views towards parenting and gender roles change, it is becoming more typical for men to be present at these festivities.
Do Fathers Attend Baby Showers?
Fathers attending baby showers are a growing trend, reflecting the changing parenting dynamics. No longer just a celebration for women, these events now often include fathers-to-be, highlighting their important role in the journey of parenthood.
While some dads might prefer their celebration, like a “bachelor party,” many are embracing the opportunity to be part of the traditional baby shower. Their presence at these events is a symbol of shared excitement and responsibility in welcoming a new child.
This shift towards including fathers in baby showers is a significant step in acknowledging the equal importance of both parents in the upbringing of a child.
Do Guys Go Baby Showers?
Yes, guys go to baby showers. I attended several baby showers for my guy friends and had my male friends attend my baby shower. However, if the question is, “Are guys allowed to go to the baby shower?” Then, the answer is “It depends.”
A general good rule of thumb is to ask, “Is the father attending the baby shower?” If yes, then it’s a safe assumption that guys are allowed to attend the baby shower. Otherwise, the guys can hang out somewhere else.
Either way, it’s an excellent way for experienced dads to share their wisdom, such as how to handle a witching your baby. Also, it’s a form of bonding, similar to how some men hold bachelor parties.
In the Past and now, Why did guys have a hard time Attending Baby Showers?
In a traditional baby shower, it was not common for men to attend a baby shower. Back then, women took on the heavier role of raising the children. So, the fathers excused themselves from this activity to allow the mother to be the main focus of the shower.
I’ve seen my female friends continue the tradition of a ”ladies only” baby shower but not in any way discount the father’s role in rearing the child. Instead, it was a way for friends to celebrate this momentous life event.
Here are some reasons why sometimes men are not allowed at baby showers:
1. Pregnancy Talk
Typically, baby showers involve pregnancy talk in a traditional ceremony. No matter how much fathers or husbands try to be understanding of their partner, there are some things that we can’t begin to relate to, in particular, experiencing being pregnant. For this reason, women don’t invite men to baby showers.
Honestly, I fully understand. I love supporting my wife. But, when it comes to those conversations, I wouldn’t be able to contribute. Additionally, every nerve in my body may get a shock from some of the details shared amongst the ladies.
Add giving birth on top of all of it. There is no way I can equate that hard work. So, I call my wife a trooper cause I can never do what she did (twice).
2. Celebrating Motherhood
A new mom deserves to feel special. Like how guys have their dad tribe, an expectant mother will also have their female circle.
Similarly, a “ladies-only” baby shower is an excellent opportunity to share personal stories and experiences about being a mother. These talks are helpful to prepare for kids who may be strong-willed or have questions about breastfeeding.
3. Social Event
Cyndi Lauper said it best with her song, “Girls just want to have fun.” Depending on who sets up the baby shower, people can liken a baby shower to a party.
I recall as a child many years ago attending a baby show because the hosts invited my mother. My mom is a single parent. So, it’s natural that she brought me along.
Aside from receiving baby essentials as gifts, they played party games. As a child peeking from another room, it was strange. But, as an adult, I understand that some girls want to have fun. It was enough reason not to include men.
Societal Perceptions and Acceptance of Men at Baby Showers
Breaking Down Gender Stereotypes in Parenting
The way society views men at baby showers is changing, much like how a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly. Traditionally, these events were like exclusive clubs for women only.
But now, we’re seeing more coed baby showers and “dadchelor parties.” It’s a refreshing change, showing that men are equally important in the journey of raising children.
Just as both parents share the responsibilities of childcare, they also share in the joys of celebrating the upcoming arrival. It is like opening a door into a room where everyone is welcome, regardless of gender.
Community and Family Reactions to Coed Baby Showers
When it comes to including men in baby showers, reactions can be as varied as flavors in an ice cream shop. Some people might still prefer the traditional women-only gatherings, like sticking to classic vanilla.
But many are embracing the new trend, enjoying the mix of flavors that coed showers bring. Families and friends are increasingly supportive of this inclusive approach. It’s like having a party where everyone is invited – more people means more fun, right?
It’s essential to respect the expectant parents’ wishes. If they want a coed shower, it’s like they’re choosing their favorite flavor for their celebration.
In the end, the goal is to make the event a joyful and memorable experience for everyone, especially the parents-to-be.
What Do Guys Do During a Baby Shower?
If you think there’s nothing for guys to do at a baby shower, you’re sadly mistaken. I consider myself an introvert and found myself participating in various activities. Guys can either be passive or active in their participation in baby showers.
Here are a few passive activities for guys to do at a baby shower:
1. Eat
If there are no games planned for the guys, they can still enjoy their time when you offer them free food. What guy turns down free food? Even the shy types can stuff their mouth full without feeling the pressure to talk.
As for baby shower food ideas, you can never go wrong with barbeques, burgers, and pizza.
2. Watching Sport
Watching sports on TV is another way for guys to feel comfortable. Whether it’s the NBA or a college sport, guys will watch it as long as a team passes a ball. So hand them a drink alongside their burger, and you got yourself a satisfied guest.
3. Billiards and Ping Pong
What is it about shooting pools that men find so entertaining? After every college class, I would find myself in the school game room playing billiards or ping pong. If a pool table or ping pong table is available, it’s enough entertainment for the guys to watch and feel included.
7 Activities To Include Guys In A Baby Shower
Are you looking for baby shower ideas? Then, check out these baby shower games your family members and loved ones will love.
1. Stroller Racing
Every father loves a good race. Give them a stroller, and you’ve got “Fast & the Fatherly.” All you need is at least two strollers and a set path to race around, and you’re ready to go!
2. Baby Food Guessing Game
Trying to get kids to eat their vegetables can be a task. However, you won’t get what it tastes like unless you try. In this game, couples are blindfolded while eating the mystery baby food and try to guess what it could be. Open wide!
3. Tinkle In The Pot
Another kind of race men will never experience is racing to the bathroom while pregnant. Well, not until now!
For fun, stuff a balloon in the men’s shirt and place a ball between their legs. The goal is to get from one point to another while still holding the ball between your thighs.
Trust me. If you’re looking for a time to laugh, this game is the one!
4. Blindfold Diapering
After changing so many diapers late at night with my first baby, you would think I could do it blindfolded. But, unfortunately, I still need both eyes when changing my kids.
For a baby shower, have the guys blindfolded and try to change a diaper on a doll. If only kids knew how to stay still in real life.
5. Bottoms Up Baby Bottle
If you’re looking for a drinking game, put your favorite beverage in a bottle and see who can drink it down the fastest. Of course, I’m not saying what should be in the bottle for the game. However, men attending a baby shower should expect to be drinking milk.
6. Pin The Sperm On The Egg
Have you played the game “Pin the Tail on the Donkey” when you were younger? Then, the game “pin the sperm on the egg” should not be a problem to learn. Instead of a tail, you’ll have to create something else.
First, blindfold your guest. Next, spin them around while the crowd cheers them on during the whole process.
7. Bobbing for Bottle Nipples
As for another traditional game, you can take the game Bobbing for Apples and convert it into “Bobbing for Bottle Nipples.”
Place a couple of bottle nipples in a large bucket of water and let the flow. Next, have the guys try to capture the bottle nipples with their mouths.
You might have to give a heads-up and let them know to pack a towel and an extra change of clothes. Those who are determined to win may be the ones most soaked.
Conclusion
In conclusion, while we’ve explored various aspects of men attending baby showers, a unique consideration remains the individuals’ personal choice and comfort level.
Societal norms are shifting towards more inclusive celebrations, welcoming fathers and male guests into what was once a women-only affair.
Yes, guys do go to baby showers, and this trend reflects a broader change in recognizing men as equal partners in parenting.
Ultimately, the decision to include men in these celebrations is a personal one, influenced by individual preferences and cultural shifts.
This evolution in baby shower traditions symbolizes a progressive step towards inclusivity and shared experiences in the journey of parenthood.
