A Reddit user says she confronted her mom about making comments and assumptions about other people’s finances. She told her mom that it made her look like a “gold digger.”
Her Mom Would Always Ask If Her Friend’s Had A Lot Of Money
The Original Poster (OP) explains that her mom grew up in poverty, and growing up, her family struggled to get by. She also stated that since she was young, her mom would comment about other people’s income and finances.
For example, whenever OP met anyone, whether a friend, love interest, or classmate, her mom commented, “they might have money” or “they may be wealthy.” OP had seen this play out repeatedly to the point where she refrained from bringing up and introducing new people to her mother.
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Her Mom Did It Again
OP recently had a date scheduled with a new guy and told her mom. OP’s mom immediately responded, “Oh, that’s awesome! I wonder how much he makes!”.
Frustrated, OP finally asked her mom why she asked that question about everyone. OP’s mom responded that it’s something she’s interested in.
OP explained to her mom that it makes her feel uncomfortable and feels like that’s a “gold-digger” question. OP’s mom said it was just a joke, and now she refuses to speak to OP.
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Is Her Mom a Gold Digger?
One Reddit user sided with OP stating it’s “pretty cringe” to talk about someone else’s financial status, especially when you don’t know them.
However, another Reddit user was more empathetic to the mother because she sacrificed her life for her daughter and wants her to have a promising future, saying, “Maybe you don’t care about money because your mother gave you the best life she could… She doesn’t want you to marry a bum and struggle like she did.”
In response to this Reddit user’s comment, OP said that even when she was ten, her mom would ask if her friend had big houses, pools, or lots of money.”
Is OP wrong to question her mom about constant curiosity about other people’s money? Is OP’s mom only concerned that she marries someone financially stable? Do you talk about other people’s finances?
This article was produced and syndicated by Parent Portfolio.