A Reddit user shares that a company offered her husband his “dream job.” However, the user says the company is a competitor and could cause her to lose her job. So, she didn’t want him to take the offer.
She is The Breadwinner Of Their Household
The original poster (OP) is the breadwinner between her and her husband, making over $200,000 a year, while the job her spouse was applying to makes about $65,000.
OP’s job is “extremely secretive.” She fears she is risking her career if her clients discover her husband worked for a competitor. And, if OP were to lose her job, should would have a hard time getting a new job because her background is very specialized.
They live in an expensive city. So, if she were to lose her job, it would be tough to live on his sole income of $65,000.
She Told Him To Drop Out From Consideration For This Job
OP asked her husband to drop out from consideration. Instead, she recommended he go back to school and take an advanced degree or just be unemployed for a while.
But, he wasn’t happy with her request and called her “selfish and only cared about money.” But OP’s request didn’t stop him from continuing the interview process and eventually receiving an offer from the competitor company.
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“It Felt Like The Only Option At The Time”
OP wanted her husband to decline the offer. But, if he decided to move forward with the offer, OP told him he needed to move out immediately.
OP said she would pay for him to stay at a hotel, and she would begin the divorce proceedings. Her company also mentioned they are willing to pay all the legal fees.
OP’s husband called her “heartless and cold” for prioritizing her career over his. But, to OP, “it felt like the only option at the time.”
OP claims she still loves him but had to move “decisively” because it was the optimal way to cut her losses.
Did She Prioritize Her Career Over Their Marriage?
The Reddit community is curious to know if OP confirmed with HR that she would lose her job if her spouse accepted the position. Or did she assume she would?
Other Reddit users are saying OP’s competitors are probably aware the husband is married to OP. Therefore, the users speculate that the competing company is offering the husband an irresistible package to spy on OP later on.
Did OP prioritize her career over her marriage? Or, are OP’s assumptions correct, and this competitor company only hires the husband to get to OP?
Is the trust in this relationship gone after the husband continued to interview the company? Is having a big paycheck necessary to have a peaceful marriage?